Ya ever feel like life is one giant “work in progress”?? Almost from day one we’re taught the dicotomy between the short and long term. Drink some milk and feeding time is “done” but growing is going to continue for another few dozen years. Playdates may be “finished” in a few hours but cultivating friendships will take a lifetime. We’re so ready to be done with school for the day, the week, the summer and graduation can’t seem to come fast enough. Then we start working and so many people seem to be living for the weekend. For a break.
Only instead of summer vacation at camp and swimming in the creek it’s usually a week (two if you’re lucky) going some places and doing some things that we have to plan ourselves.
But even vacation can’t stop the constant striving to get things done. Projects are started and completed. Cases won and lost. And yet before everything can truly be considered finished something new pops up. Even when we retire there are months, sometimes years, of passing the baton of responsibility. Did you know when an air traffic controller takes a bathroom break it takes 20 minutes to relay all the vital information to a fill-in?
Yet with every other category of life having a definite beginning and end there are so many interpersonal aspects that are fluid. Take maturity, for instance. Who says when you’re “mature” enough to be considered mature. Sure, you may make dinner every night and include 3 servings of vegetables but does that overcome throwing a holy fit in the department store when they don’t carry your size? Or the snide comments you make about a co-worker? And what determines when you’re healthy? Is it at a certain weight or overall mix of strength and wellness?
It’s in these fluxuating categories that so many people have difficulty measuring success. Because there’s no true finish line it can be hard to keep working toward a non-existant end.
A lot of rambling, a lot of questions for myself and no real answers.
To placate you a bit here are some of my favorite people, places and pictures.